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Mental and Emotional Well-Being Tool Kit

The world breaks everyone, and then some become strong in the broken places. – Ernest Hemingway, Farewell to Arms

LAP Volunteers have become strong in the broken places. As soon as LAP participants begin actively using recovery tools, they become incredibly resilient and actually cope better than most, especially in situations that parallel the COVID-19 pandemic. By that, I mean situations steeped in uncertainty (economic, personal, professional, social, familial), situations where there is a sense of a loss of control, not only to shape outcomes (as we like to think we do as lawyers) but even loss of control over the process. This is where people in long-term recovery shine. They’ve had years of practice implementing these tools day in and day out. Recovery is mostly about day-to-day emotional well-being as we navigate the vagaries of life.

It is not that people in long-term recovery somehow do not feel scared, anxious, frustrated, angry, impatient, or overwhelmed. They do; we do. It is that we have learned ways to be more present in the unfolding moment, more emotionally balanced and not make it (i.e., life, a difficult situation, etc.) worse than it actually is. Sometimes it (i.e., life, a difficult situation, etc.) can be quite bad. So we have to find ways to navigate it with some sense of equanimity to maintain some balance. This is where recovery tools come into play. In good news, these recovery tools are available to everyone.

I reached out to some of our volunteers and asked each to send me a short paragraph on their favorite recovery tool and to apply it to the pandemic. Each entry you see is written by a different volunteer, and yet, you will see lots of overlapping themes. I received more content than I can possibly use in one Sidebar (or, frankly, ten). So I have created this tool box. You can click on a tool or a slogan and read multiple lawyers’ perspectives on a topic. I will update this webpage with additional content as it arrives. I am also including some article links below that folks may find helpful.

A note about some of the entries: some speak of God or a Higher Power, and I have not edited this out, where I might normally. LAP takes no position on these issues and encourages readers to insert their own conceptions, whether they be religiously, scientifically, psychologically, or humanistically based. As one of our slogans encourages us: take what you like and leave the rest.

NC May 12 2020 COVID Resources Update (Everything including the kitchen sink…)

HALT

One Day at a Time

Do the next right thing

I can do anything for 30 minutes

Feelings Aren’t Facts

First Things First

Living Life on Life’s Terms

The Serenity Prayer

Powerlessness

Pain is Inevitable; Misery is Optional

Staying in the Moment

Exercises for Getting Present

This Too Shall Pass

Power of Perspective

Attitude of Gratitude

Pause When Agitated or Doubtful

KISS

You Are Not Alone

FEAR

Wear Life Like a Loose Garment

Third Step 

Awareness Acceptance and Action

Don’t Forget to Breathe

A Young Lawyer’s Reflection

 

On Coronavirus Lockdown? Look for Meaning, Not Happiness.

How the Wisdom of the 12 Step Programs Can Help Get Us Through April

When Hidden Grief Gets Triggered During COVID-19 Confinement 

A Day at a Time: How to Apply 12-Step Principles During COVID-19 Times

How to Live in the Face of Fear – A Lesson From A Cancer Survivor

Trouble Focusing? Not Sleeping? You May Be Grieving

How Not to Say the Wrong Thing to Healthcare Workers