Accommodation or Transformation

The heart is the literal and metaphorical center of our lives.  We have either an open heart toward life or we may be closed hearted.  Our response toward life may be one full of heartache or heartfelt joy. All of us have issues and challenges from time to time.  How we respond will tell us […]

Against the Pollution of the I

Jacques Lusseyran was born in 1924. At school one day when he was seven, as classes ended and he was rushing for the door, he was accidentally shoved. He fell, hitting his head on one of the sharp corners of the teacher’s desk. He was wearing glasses and the blow drove one of the arms […]

Denial And The Self-Deception of Addictive Disease

In a previous column Dr. Mooney and I looked at the link between genetics and the disease of alcoholism and the neuropharmacology that leads to the compulsion to drink. We saw that once there is the onset of the disease that certain neuro-chemical sequences occur in the brain each time alcohol is introduced into the […]

Self-examination Through Journaling

Last year I had the chance to read David McCullough’s biography of John Adams and to read the Adam’s biography that preceded it by Catherine Drinker Bowen published in 1949.  What is striking about the two stories of one man’s life is how McCullough focuses on Adam’s emotional life  his insecurities, his emotions under pressure in […]

Healthy Relationships as Alternative Medicine

What is alternative about alternative medicine? Increasingly we note that main stream pharmaceutical companies are mass producing and selling the most popular herbal remedies such as St. John’s Wort and echinacea-goldenseal. Acupuncture is now covered by some insurance companies for certain medical problems. Recently, I was at an addictions conference and a former medical school […]

Anger The Drug

“Anger is liquor to the “dry drunk” alcoholic.  Once anger comes in, just like alcohol, it has to wear itself out; it goes through the body just like liquor.”  These were the words of a PALS volunteer to me recently.  They struck home.  I have been working with lawyers and judges dealing with alcohol issues […]

Good Mental Health Starts With Becoming Real

A man and his wife and small daughter go into a restaurant for dinner.   The waitress comes over and takes the orders of the husband and wife.  Immediately the five year old daughter pipes up and gives her own order:  “I will have a hot dog, french fries and a Coke.”  The dad immediately interjects: […]

Thriving Through Depression: Beethoven

Case Study A.  This is a lawyer 31 years old who works for a prestigious law firm in a North Carolina city.  He is married, has two children, and makes over a $100,000 a year.  He works 60 hours a week and tries to bill at least 2000 hours a year.  He finds himself waking […]

Brain Neuroplasticity and Addiction

For a long time there has been much research on addiction but there hasn’t been much research on the solution.  I like to talk about recovery, the solution.  Now for the first time there is exciting research about recovery. Using addictive drugs can evolve from controlled social use into the compulsive relapsing disorder that characterizes addiction. This […]

Good Mental Health and the Lawyer’s Gift

“The gift is to the giver, and comes back most to him — it cannot fail”   –Walt Whitman. In a recent speech in Laramie Wyoming, Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor noted that job dissatisfaction among lawyers was widespread, profound, and growing.  She added that attorneys are more than three times as likely to suffer […]

Got Everything Done, Died Anyway

So might the epitaph of many of us read.  Or, “Tried to get everything done, didn’t and died anyway.” Are we just trying to get through the day and check one more thing off our list?  Are in fact our lives just a series of tasks?  Are we just waiting to get some unseen list […]

Happiness

If Professor Daniel Gilbert is right, then you are wrong to believe that a new car will make you as happy as you imagine it will.  You are wrong to believe that finally getting that big case in will make you as happy for as long as you might imagine.  On the other hand, if […]