Grief & Loss

Hurricane Helene – A Wide Wind Field

By Robynn Moraites and Cathy Killian In the context of hurricanes, a “wind field” refers to the spatial distribution of winds around the eye of the storm. Think of it like a “blast radius.” It includes both the hurricane-force winds, which can extend from about 25 to 150 miles from the center, as well as […]

Messy, Unruly, Chaotic Life

After working at the NC Lawyer Assistance Program (LAP) for the past 5 years, I can say with confidence that most of what we see clinically is lawyers’ and judges’ responses to the serious difficulties of life and a career in law. Not that there isn’t true psychopathology, because there certainly is. But it is […]

You Can Trust That Assistance is Confidential and Reliable

The legal profession is a helping profession. Most days lawyers find themselves trying to solve problems for their clients. We are paid to have answers and to fix situations that have gone awry. One of the difficulties for professionals who are supposed to have the answers for others is that it is difficult for them […]

Got Everything Done, Died Anyway

So might the epitaph of many of us read.  Or, “Tried to get everything done, didn’t and died anyway.” Are we just trying to get through the day and check one more thing off our list?  Are in fact our lives just a series of tasks?  Are we just waiting to get some unseen list […]

Suicide – A Misunderstood Tragedy

These articles are written by the family members of Mississippi lawyers lost to suicide.  But for the Grace of God these stories could be about anyone of us affected with these illnesses.  Rodney, Robert, and Portrait were real people, loving fathers, husbands, and lawyers.  Often our culture focuses on “the suicide.”  With these stories we […]

It’s Now Easier for Law Students to Get Help

Every now and then the Lawyer Assistance Program gets a call from a law student at one of our seven North Carolina law schools.  The student would rather talk without giving his or her name.   The LAP person answering the phone says that’s OK and asks what the concerns are. Usually the student is facing […]

Grief Is A Vital Part of Recovery, So Embrace It

One of the things I think our society has an extremely difficult time with is the process of grief. We give it a lot of lip service, but, in the end, avoid talking about how much grief and loss is involved in day-to-day life. We politically correctify it as “empty nest syndrome” or a “midlife […]