You Are Not Alone
I have been in recovery for over 13 years. I have shared many times that if I had designed the “perfect” recovery program, it would have been one that did not involve other people, that could be done from home behind a computer screen (essentially allowing me to isolate). Fortunately, this was not in the cards for me (nor the way that recovery works). I soon learned that I needed people (I still do). I also learned how to identify with others and our shared internal feelings or experiences (instead of comparing our external circumstances); to find commonalities instead of differences.
“Alone. Together” is our state slogan for the coronavirus. It reminds me that I am not alone; that although I cannot see them, there are millions of people throughout the world who are having similar experiences and feelings. This awareness helps me feel connected. I also have gotten in the habit of walking each morning (working from home has given me more time). I practice social distancing while walking, yet say “hello” to others I encounter; it helps me to remember that we are all in this together. And I do trust that together we will get through this!
Another lawyer reflects:
You are not alone. I am not alone. If all the media coverage has made anything clear to me, it is that every human being on Earth is facing this together.
As a lawyer in AA, I am grateful for all the support that is available. Yes, I miss attending meetings in person. My therapist even concluded that maybe I am not as much of an introvert as we had thought. Having said that I miss the in-person meetings, the Zoom and other on-line meetings are wonderful. I am still attending my home group that way. The small step study group we had in process is also continuing on-line. I am grateful for this.
I am calling my AA sponsor more than usual. My sponsees are also calling me more often. I am grateful for this.
I am working from home. Some others in my office insist on going into the office, but I can accomplish just about everything at home.
My wife and I re Moravians. We have a Moravian star shining in our home 24/7, as a small way of showing faith and hope.
So, what have I learned? I need other people, but they are still available. I also need to do my part by staying home when possible. I also need to reach out to try to help others. We are all in this together.
One lawyer offered up a prayer to the God of his understanding for people recovering from alcohol and drug problems:
Father God, a prayer for those in need. Father we are living in unprecedented times. We are ordered to stay home; to self-isolate: to stay six feet away from other people. Jobs and income have been lost. Father, I fear for those in recovery from alcohol and drug addiction. I fear they feel alone and lost in these times and will decide to abandon their recovery.
Father, I pray you shine your light onto those who feel alone and you open their eyes to your glory. I pray you extend your guiding hand and keep them on the path of recovery. I pray you will guide those in need to call on You, or their sponsor or a friend before they abandon their recovery. I pray you will guide others to seek out and help those who are struggling before they get lost.
Father God, I pray You open their ears to Your voice and when someone feels utterly alone You whisper into his/her ear and say “My precious child, I love you and will never leave you. Never, ever, during your trials and tests. Be assured I will carry you.” I pray a person in need hears Your words and knows-he or she is not alone!